Are you suffering from comparisonitis? Here’s how to cure it…

How many of us can identify with feeling perfectly fine until we start aimlessly scrolling our social media feeds? Suddenly we feel flat, unhappy and inadequate – and all in the space of a few minutes.

Comparing yourself to others

I wasn’t sure ‘comparisonitis’ (comparing yourself to others) was even a word but it turns out it is in the dictionary! Defined as ‘the compulsion to compare one’s accomplishments to another’s to determine importance’ *, this definitely rings a bell.

Not enough

Comparisonitis means we feel we are not enough somehow, and can’t possibly measure up to our friends, colleagues or others – whether that relates to appearance, clothing, their relationship/s, their job, their life in general – the list goes on.

While it is human nature to compare ourselves to others, if it’s starting to consume you and impact your confidence, this is a sign you need to address it.

Letting go

Here’s some tips for letting go of the comparing urge:

  • Notice, and recognise you are comparing – being aware of this tendency is the first step.
  • Pay close attention to your own achievements and things that make you feel good about yourself – too often we ignore these in favour of what someone else has accomplished.
  • Turn it around: can the person inspire you instead of making you feel inferior? If they can do it, maybe so can you?
  • If you aren’t having a good day, stay off Instagram and Facebook.
  • Run an ‘honesty check’ – are you feeling fearful, insecure?  Sometimes we self sabotage by falling into the comparison trap as it keeps us in our comfort zone.
  • Check for triggers – are any old feelings emerging? If this happens a lot, it can be good to talk to a therapist to try to diffuse these.

Don’t hesitate to get in touch if any of this resonates with you 🙂

*Wiktionary

 

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