How are your relationships doing? Research shows us that having solid, fulfilling relationships is more important than having more money or that perfect job.
The emphasis is on quality, rather than quantity. Also, these relationships help calm your nervous system, keep your brain healthier as you age, and minimise emotional and physical pain.
When our relationships are not going well, it is common to feel disconnected, lonely or out of sorts, and other things can start to suffer – such as sleeping, eating and a decline in mood.
Counselling can help to strengthen bonds with your loved ones, and help you to become less reactive. We can explore triggers you may be unaware that you even have. Another useful skill is learning to resolve conflict in a way that is comfortable to you.
Relationships discussed in counselling can refer to those with loved ones, children, extended family or friends or at work – they can all impact.
Some clients attend together, for example couple counselling, and some clients attend on their own – in which case I practise relationship-sensitive individual therapy.
What happens in relationship counselling?
- Step 1 I meet with the couple to establish why they have come and what they are hoping to gain from the process.
- Step 2 The couple completes a thorough relationship questionnaire (online, at home), which allows me to assess the positive and negative aspects of the relationship. (both parties complete this independently and their answers are privately submitted).
- Step 3 Each partner attends for a one hour individual session so I can learn about them independently.
- Step 4 A joint session occurs where the results of the questionnaire are discussed, and we begin to discuss helpful strategies to improve the relationship.
- Step 5 Subsequent joint sessions focus on triggers, strategies and coping tools specific to the couple.