Karen Holmes

My five top tips for blended families

Do you want to be right or do you want to be together? I recently put together these tips for blended families to thrive: 1. The couple needs to come first. Some clients find this tip a bit shocking, but remember that your partner is best placed to soothe you and take care of you. This then …

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Gratitude – the most underrated way to improve your relationship

  ‘She doesn’t need to thank me’, ‘She knows I’m grateful for what she does’, ‘It feels embarrassing to say thank you to him’ and ‘Why should I have to say thanks?’ – these are all reflections that I have heard from clients when introducing gratitude as a powerfully effective tool to boost their relationships. …

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Want better communication with your partner? Try a soft start up…

Since the outcome of a conversation is generally predicted by how the first three minutes go*, it makes sense to fine tune your communication skills. The harsh start up Often, the conversation tends to go this way: “You’re so lazy, you never unstack the dishwasher!” This is a harsh start up – you can guess …

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Are you suffering from comparisonitis? Here’s how to cure it…

How many of us can identify with feeling perfectly fine until we start aimlessly scrolling our social media feeds? Suddenly we feel flat, unhappy and inadequate – and all in the space of a few minutes.

When you break up but you can’t move on

A breakup can be debilitatingly painful, and often our preferred response is to try to get through it as quickly as possible.